You are 30 seconds away from a totally different life. This is the number one of the many major habits of billionaires you need to practice daily.
Do you feel unlovable? Are you having doubts about whether your business will succeed?
Have you been feeling blank these days? Do school works give you more anxiety these days?
Have confidence– attract, manifest, visualize.But, how can you build self-confidence?
Let us be inspired by Mel Robbins.
About Mel Robbins
Mel Robbins is a renowned lawyer, television host, author, and motivational speaker. How did she achieve all these things?
Mel earned her Juris Doctor degree in 1994 from Boston College Law School. She first works as a criminal defense attorney and hosted three television songs before becoming a CNN legal analyst.
She penned and published her first book, Stop Saying You’re Fine: Discover a More Powerful You, in 2011. After her first published self-help book, she became one of the speakers at TEDx San Francisco. There, she shared to her listeners the five-second rule, which as of today, has 26 million views.
Mel published her second book, The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage. It topped the charts and became the Book of the Year for the Self-Development category in Audible.
Up until today, Mel Robbins continues to inspire people with her talks and books.
You might think Mel had it easy– but no, life throws different kinds of challenges.
Just like us, Mel had her fair share of struggles– unemployment, financial distress, shaky relationship, and confidence shot.
Were there days when anxiety strained you to bed and did not allow you to get up? I have, and Mel as well.
What did Mel do to overcome these intrusive thoughts and anxiety?
Well, she came up with something. When the alarm blares in the morning, she doesn’t think about her problems. Instead, she started counting to 5 backward– and that 5 seconds made a change.
In those 5 seconds, she did not think about anything and started moving forward. That’s how you get up, not only in bed but in life.
As Mel regains herself, she is building her self-confidence back.
Now, the question is– how did she?
You will be in shock at how short it takes to build self-confidence– 30 seconds. Yes, seconds, you read it right. Mel, the American lawyer, says the no. 1 habit that billionaires practice daily only takes 30 seconds.
Are you curious what these 30 seconds mean? Well, Mel doesn’t base her claims on opinions. She researches and discusses things intricately.
The Science in Building Confidence with Mel Robbins
Law of attraction. Manifestation. Visualization.
Mel describes them as vision or seeing signs, and it has a relation to our brain system.
Now, listen carefully as Mel Robbins made this part technical and science-related.
Our brain has the reticular activating system, a system of neurons that filters the information in your brain– and you are responsible for the filtering. What you will always think or tell your brain will penetrate and adapt.
Let’s say you continually think everybody hates you. Your reticular activating system will easily recognize and point out evidence that confirms your negative thinking.
What’s the importance of RAS?
The RAS or reticular activating system plays a huge role in our memories. It filters every piece of information inside your brain. Imagine if your brain doesn’t filter any information? That would be a problem, your brain will explode out of exhaustion and information overload.
Thus, it’s the role of the reticular activating system to filter information and retain specific information that it agrees with.
But, what’s the connection between the reticular activating system and visualization?
You can use visualization to reprogram the reticular activating system in your brain. Your brain will see an opportunity to build moments.
Two-Step Process of Visualization
Visualization comes in a simple process with two easy steps.
All of us have goals, don’t we?
- Grab a pen and paper and write down what you want to achieve.
- Go over each goal and do a visualization exercise
How can you start with the visualization exercise?
Mel taught us how to do it scientifically.
Let’s say, you want to improve your self-worth. You need to visualize how your life will be if your self-worth has improved.
- Close your eyes and create a scenario inside your head.
- Imagine what it feels and how life looks like if you have improved self-worth.
Well, you can imagine being carefree with your relationships, confident at work or with your business, you are taking care of yourself.
When you start visualizing these scenarios, consciously think about the positive emotions you feel in these situations.
You will feel proud, calm, happy, and grateful. Once you mirror these scenarios, you will feel good about yourself.
But, what’s actually happening?
The Science Behind Mel RobbinsVisualization
When you are visualizing, there’s amazing magic that’s happening in your brain. You are training your brain to develop a different filter.
In reality, our brain cannot differentiate the bad happenings from the good ones. It only recognizes what you instill and let it filter. It will encode or develop scenarios and feelings into real memory. That’s how the reticular activating system works.
Based on research, experts say the more you visualize, the greater your confidence is [1]. If you make 30 seconds every morning a habit, you will achieve more of your goals.
You only need 30 seconds of your day to make a change.
If you are used to waking up anxious for work, take 30 seconds and visualize how great the day is at work. When you visualize things, it develops the skill as though you are actually doing it.
As you do the visualization process, your brain is reprogramming.
How to Use Visualization to Build Confidence
Before we begin, let’s have a serious talk.
Sit on the most comfortable chair on our couch at home. Focus on your breathing, close your eyes and allow yourself to visualize scenarios in your head. Do not rush. Take your time.
Now that you are done, let us ask you these questions. Ponder them.
- What does confidence give you? Are you afraid of success and strong self-esteem?
- What does confidence sound like?
- What is the smell of success? Will it make you become more influential and outstanding?
- How would you like to experience confidence?
These questions may have the easiest or hardest questions. However, it’s the start. You can further the theories and boost their confidence.
As mentioned, visualization reprograms our brain. It helps us relax, enhance performance, and aid pain management.
Follow these simple tips to know how to build confidence.
1. Create a space and allow enough time.
Visualization requires concentration and a bit of meditation. Plan out the days and check whether there are potential interruptions to your visualization. Avoid the busiest time of the day or avoid those things that might interfere with your practice.
Create a good environment at the beginning of your visualization.
2. Focus on deep breathing
Deep breathing helps a lot in concentration. Pay attention to your body, can you finish an undisturbed meditation?
Start by paying attention to your breathing.
3. Visualize the first person.
Ensure that the person you are visualizing is in the first person. Instead of going, you realize that you are observing yourself from afar.
4. Be realistic and optimistic.
It’s best and helpful at the start with goals. To be honest, your co-workers might still not have the immediate removal and it might happen to you. Thus, always look for opportunities where you can compromise,
5. Engage all your senses.
When you are visually confident you are using the Kenko credits. It’s important to engage with all your senses to help your brain easily recognize.
How to Apply the 30-Second Rule
Visualization will only take 30 seconds. Put in your mind the goals you want to accomplish and what you will feel towards the scenarios.
For instance, you will sell a light-stick, and it’s low in stocks. You have to focus on getting more from their services or blocking their Instagram.
By then, you will feel the ripple of change. You become good and huge.
Remove those intriguing thoughts, make arrangements in your home,
Challenge Yourself
By now, your reticular activating system is changing. The more you visualize, speak up, the more skills and confidence you build.
Quit demotivating and discouraging yourself that you can’t do it. Instead, look for ways on how you can participate and be a better person. Look for opportunities.
If you want to change your brain’s filter and look for more opportunities, it’s important to go through the process. Go through your goals, visualize, do this for 30 seconds in the morning throughout the next 30 days.
References:
[1] National Library of Medicine (VK Ranganathan 2004 ). From mental power to muscle power-gaining strength by using the mind. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/14998709/
